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birth, choices, Information, Labour

Confident Birthing Choices

When we first wrote this blog post it was the start of the corona virus pandemic. That was a time when lots of things changed very fast and we often didn’t know from week to week what would be on offer in terms of healthcare for labour and birth. Since then we’ve been told that everything has returned to normal. But in our experience, we’ve not returned to the way things used to be, there’s still a lot more uncertainty and last minute changes than used to be usual. From what we can work out this is mainly due to staffing levels in maternity services. It’s generally not an issue for anyone planning to birth in the labour ward. However, those planning a home birth or to birth in the stand alone birthing centres are still being warned there is always the possibility they will be asked to come into the labour ward (or sometimes to the alongside birthing centre) on the day. For anyone having an induction of labour this can also affect how long they will need to wait between being advised to have their labour induced and when they are invited into the hospital to start that process as well as how long that process may take.

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Information, Newborn Baby

Normal Newborn Sleep

There are several phrases we would like to see banned and one is “sleeping like a baby”. The idea that babies should be seen and not heard, that they should have a feed and then sleep peacefully in a cot for a significant period of time has no basis in actual baby physiology and has so much potential to make new parents feel like they are failing.

The real-life situation is that everything in the world is new to a baby and all they have ever known is to be perfectly happy in the warm darkness listening to your heartbeat. So if your baby wants to only sleep on you and never be put down, congratulations they are normal.

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Newborn Baby, postnatal

Normal Newborn Care

There are lots of ‘basic baby care’ tasks you might be doing for the very first time when you have a new baby. It’s okay to feel you don’t know anything and normal to learn on the job. There is no such thing as a silly question. If you don’t have a reliable group of friends or a relative you can trust to support you, you’re more than welcome to come along to any of our meet-ups and know there will be someone there who has had the same questions as you, whatever is concerning or confusing you. Our Facebook group is also a great place for these questions especially as there’s often someone around at any time of day.

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Baby Feeding, postnatal

Normal Newborn Feeding.

We need support to feed our babies not “breastfeeding promotion”

Maybe the most common question you will have been asked in your antenatal appointments is how are you planning to feed your baby? The most common advice is likely to have been you “should” breast/chest feed.

So many parents find the flip side of this is once the baby is born if they have any experience other than a perfectly latching and growing baby with no effort the advice changes to perhaps you “should” just give them a bottle.

This situation leads to so many parents feeling they have failed and feeling guilty.

This is the difference between breastfeeding promotion and baby feeding support.

So let’s be really honest. Establishing breast/chest feeding is probably more often than not an intense experience where challenges have to be faced and worked through. It is completely normal to need support with feeding your baby.

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Information

Five ways Information Can be Your Best Friend

1. Information is Not Advice.

Everyone has their own life experiences and opinions which may colour the way they present information and make it seem a lot like advice. Sometimes our own understanding of the world, or previous experiences, can make us feel pressured to make choices that feel implied by the information someone has selected to give us. An important thing to be aware of, and a skill to learn during pregnancy that will serve you very well as a parent and through life, is how to filter what you hear so you can spot the information and separate it from the advice so that you can decide what the right choices are for you. One example of this might be when you’re offered an induction of labour. You will be given information about why you are being offered an induction of labour by your care provider. Some of this may be in the form of advice to take up the offer. You might then think “I’m not sure if this is the right choice for me” and want to chat through with a friend. Your friend may have had an experience of having labour induced and may have negative memories from that. The information about her experience may also feel like advice. You might then also look up information on the internet about induction of labour (if you decide to do this, you’re very welcome to ask in our Facebook group if anyone knows any reliable sources of accurate information) and you may find that information is presented from many different perspectives. Ultimately, however, you will find some things resonate with you and this information is useful for your own decision-making process. Then you are able to discard the other information and advice which isn’t helpful or relevant to you. This can help you feel really confident in your own decisions and is a life skill which can help with your confidence as you learn to parent and throughout life.

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postnatal

Birth plans, postnatal plans, team plans!

Planning for your birth isn’t planning for one isolated event. Your birth plan needs to be rooted in the context of planning for the fact that birth is just the start of the rest of your life. It’s a bit like planning your wedding and remembering that you’re not just planning one day but whole marriage.

Your birth and parenting experience is a journey into the great, exciting, unknown.

You can’t control everything, some things will happen that you’re not expecting but you can give yourself the gift of support and knowledge that allows you to not just survive but thrive.

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postnatal

Normal Newborn Development

Do I need to worry about how my baby is developing?

Childhood development is a complex topic, some people study and research it at University. But as a parent, you don’t really need to know all the details. All you need to know is that if you focus on caring for your baby they will focus on developing in their own time.

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